Gentling- Dr Krill (cont'd)

Ok the final post- has to deal with how trauma affects everyone

p 18, p 22

trauma effects everyone either directly or indirectly.
Anyone who works closely with children can tell how contagious stress is. Even clincians dealing with it can have its toll on them-they become overwhelmed with grief, fear and sadness (secondary PTSD) A clinician needs to take care of themselves as well as those they treat.

Michele here- ok so dealing with this in the clinical setting affects the clinicians- think about how much more it affects parents who deal with these children on a daily basis- we get tired- we get overwhelmed and yes it has been documented that parents began to suffer PTSD from working with their child- we as parents (self included) need to take care of ourselves- we need breaks - often we feel isolated and others have no clue what we deal with- sometimes we just need others there to listen sometimes we need others to give us time away from our child. it is a constant a daily task we deal with- even when they are not at home they do come back and we have to work with them- not your normal child not your normal how you deal with them- what works for your child may not work with mine- you always have to be thinking ahead making sure you are in check with how you are responding so you do not trigger a stress episode- it is tiring at times and emotionally and physically draining. we need people to help us - we do not ask to be understood we just ask you to be there to listen or take our child for a bit - we do try our best and hope others try to see what we go through but often we are misunderstood.
ask me i will tell you what is like-it maybe not right away but I will tell you soon