Gentling By Dr Krill

this is the book I have been reading I am going to post some pages on here from it and see that these pages were ah ha moments for me and working with Marcus- some of the things i have done but now have a better understanding of what or reasons he does the things he does.

p. 177
Stress disordered children need more affirmation, more guidance,and praise then other children. They are often insecure and can not self evaluate very well so adults need to offer more frequent assessments- (especially positive ones)

A child with stress disorder will often rush through assignments and tasks, This is a sign they are stressed. Their rushing is a form of "flight"

Learn individuals signs of stress - often they are labeled "oppositional" or attention deficit but really are expressing stress signs. some become forgetful, clingy and generally regress in their behavior. Stress disorders often mimic other disorders

p. 201 One way to understand a stressed child is to think of a glass of water: we all have some stress in the glass, however a child with a stress disorder the glass is nearly always full. When enough stress is collected it will overflow with behaviors. If signs of stress are spotted early and responded properly there can be very good results

Adults in contact with a child with stress disorder needs to know child's cues or triggers. these can be very dramatic or can be subtle and hard to see.
A cue can be something in the environment that reminds them of the trauma (often unconsciously)- a smell, a taste, a noise, a tone of voice, physcial gesture or even just a thought.

** How to deal with the stressed child will be posted tomorrow**