Why does junk behavior happen
get attention they need, but do not get as often any other way
get you to comfort them
get you to respond or react
make you angry
make you give into them
make you go away
just a habit
its what they do
Pivot
withholding our attention during the occurrence by turning to someone or something else
When do you pivot?
do another activity when you pivot away from the junk behavior
when there are 2 children and one is doing junk behavior - pivot to another child with more desirable behaviors
Steps to using pivot
1. say nothing about the junk behavior
2. do nothing to react to junk behavior
3. actively attend to another child -person- or activity
4. once behaves appropriately , provide reinforcement for appropriate behavior (use praise, etc) within 10 seconds of recognizing the appropriate behavior
5. stay cool
1 comment:
As a parent, I am very much aware of this kind of parenting tip. In fact, if I want to get rid of those irritating behaviors that my children shows, I just stop paying them off and pay off the behaviors I want.
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