Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Dealing with Abandonment...


Well we are on to new endeavors and working with Marcus-George thinks Marcus may be dealing with abandonment issues- hiding behind me (feels safe)- acting out at school or summer camp- feeling left like I am not coming back- so we will be working o this over the next few weeks- to see where we are at-
Children who have been abandoned often develop a fear of abandonement. They fear that their new parents will abandon them, leaving them cold and hungry. They fear that a teacher who is out sick for the day has abandoned them. These children assume that anytime someone leaves them that they have once again been abandoned.
Many children who are adopted have a hard time with object permanence- the ability to understand that an object is still there although it can no longer be seen. This stage of development usually happens at around 7 to 9 months of age. Adopted children struggle with this concept. Often, children will go through an abandonment process every time they leave their parents for school.

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