well...

It's been a great time since Marcus has been home- oh we have had a bumps and re looking at things but all in all I so enjoy being his mom- thankful I was chosen
He went to kids camp and had a great time-

This week we started the normal schedule- and so far so good- he was tired tonight so he went to bed early

I am working on a special project can not share anymore for now but can not wait til a couple of weeks - :)

So excited how God is working in our lives - amazing

Update from the Danielson Household

ok so Marcus has been home for over 2 weeks and doing very well- minor issues but allresolved quickly- coping and working on relaxation and me reiterating all he has learned- meeting expectations and getting rewarded or having consequences
I have really enjoyed our time together the last couple of weeks- I love him more today then when I first adopted him- he is an amazing young man.
He went ot church camp Sunday and doing well- I was able to drive over and see where it was- they are having a blast and will be soo tired when they come home- they do come home tomorrow which is good- I miss him :)

Been dealing with car issues which I really do not like- I think it is electrical which I do not like and hope it will not be expensive to fix. A friend will be looking at it to see for sure- not what I needed considering I went back to school- yes I did you read it correctly- I want to be able to help parents with the same issues as I have had with Marcus but want to be educated in how to help them- this could be a very good thing for us as a family-

ok so we are learning

ok- so Marcus was having slight moment last night because he was not listening and I had to change my tone of voice to get him to know I meant business- oh he did not get aggressive or such - he just started to shut down and not talk to me- so I sent him to his room- and guess what I did not follow- I remained calm as he stewed- I asked him to come back down and he was still ugly attitude and angry- however- the brilliant person I am (lol) stayed calm and thought - so I sent him to his room to play basketball- small soft ball with a basket on his bathroom door- about 20 minutes later called him down- he was calm- we talked- he was upset with my tone of voice- I said I understand but I had to change my tone so you would get that I wanted you to pay attention- I said I was not angry and that I usually tell him when I am getting angry- He agreed and said he understood that he was not listening-

So needless to say- I am learning to stay calm and watch and help him cope so we do not have outbursts and he is actually following through- So far the eggshell walking is not happening- :)

My new normal

Well I know it has only been 9 days since he has been home but I like my new normal-I am still learning and growing with how to work with him- but I so love this- I can actually joke with Marcus and not have anger happen- He can lose a card game and not go in meltdown mode- he can accidently break something at church and not get angry about it when questioned. we can review things on how to better handle stuff and he is good with it- this new normal I like-
He talks so much- I love it - his mind has opened up and he is soaking everything in.

Things I am learning this week-

Ok most importantly most importantly - give meds on time- why because if not giving on time your child is very hyper and not sure what to make of it- know that meds do kick in exactly 1 hour to the minute-we did learn a coping skill in regards how to deal with hyperness- because hyperness turns into anger and anger turned into aggression and we do nto want to go there again:)

I miss my friends horribly-

Consistnecy is a good thing- biking with my son is awesome he asks so many questions about what we see-

I am glad I have a 10 year old and not a 15 year old at this time-

I love my friends and family more today then yesterday-

Happy Bday-and then some

Happy Bday to my grandpa who would have been 98 today- hope you are proud of your grandkids and all of what they have accomplished-

Ok so I am working on a project in which is a passion of mine, what is it? educating parents-child ministry workers the importance of knowing your children- I can not wait to teach it somewhere- I have learned a lot over the last several months and want others to be educated on what I have learned- it took my child leaving for all this to occur and that is fine- would not want to do it again but I have gained a lot and want to share it and help others- oh i am not perfect and still learning - but hey I have come so far-

We shall see where God leads us to go

Adjustment phase

Ok I think Marcus is adjusting back to home life just fine- mommy however has to relearn how to be a full time mom again- today was a little hectic with getting him up- breakfast- off to camp- going to school for paperwork and picking him up for Drs appointment- I left the appointment with a headache-
we came home he did school work I took a nap and he is still going-
I have thoughts running through my head- all good just adjusting for me - you know cause he is not the same kid- and that is a good thing- so glad I took 2 weeks of so I could get use to being a full time mom again-
Gotta love this adjustment - it is a good tired- not complaining

God Bless America- thankful for our Freedom

my life is forever changed

i never would have realized how my life would have been changed with Marcus leaving for 5 months - well multiple things have changed but i truly realize what a gift it was for him to be gone- oh that may have sound harsh but he needed to leave in order for God to touch us both- He has in many ways - one way he has touched me is the fact I look at being a mom so differently- our children are so precious and i am so blessed to be a mom- to be chosen to be a mom- i love Marcus today more then when he left- unconditional love is amazing and words can not express how a child that was not born from me has so much of an impact on my life- he is my son and I love him so much- he is so precious to me

the joy of having your son home

he is home and not going anywhere-so glad-we set expectations and goals and conseqences a good and bad- we got all the laundry done and put away- he helped whenever asked- we just chilled and did the normal weekend thing-
now when it comes to Monday - that will be the testing day-

I am so very proud of my son- and so amazed at the transformation in his life- if not but for God- we would not be where we are at today

MY SON IS COMING HOME!

Today is the day - I have waited for - for 5 months- my child is coming home- I am so blessed and learned a lot over the last 5 months and so glad I am reunited forever with Marcus- our lives will never be the same

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