Summary of the week

It seemed this week went on forever- here is the run down of what it has been like

Monday- Marcus had a school performance -he did very well- I would like to place pictures in here but none turned out- I will be getting the DVD though. His teacher said he was the only one to know all the words and actions to the songs of all the classes. Hmmmmmm - entertainer or better yet praise and worship leader-

Tuesday-We stayed at home and watched a Christmas movie

Wednesday was an odd day- I was set to go to JBQ practice but Marucs fell asleep early- Monday night caught up with him I guess. We had to pick up gifts from a coworker for the foster kids- work gave gifts to some teens through the organization Marcus was adopted from.

Then Thursday was the day he had a rough one from start to finish- From the time he woke up til the time he went to bed. At home he wanted no business listening- I thought he got it together before I left him at Kids r Kids .Kids R Kids- he ran through the facility - I had to be called- someone made fun of him what I understand- that is what kicked of that. Then at school he had a few problems one of which he had to be removed from the classroom - he was kicking chairs over. He screamed in the car- I had to restarin him to get him in the car- because he ran from me and hid in the gym at kid r kids- he wanted to play longer - we had to go deliver the gifts this day. So grannie, Uncle Adam , and Aunt Lori all got phone calls because I was not getting through to him of course no one was around- so I began to pray - and turn on praise and worship after a few minutes he was quiet- I was mean and not nice and all the other fun things kids say to you. The day progressed with him not listening about his HW and throwing several meltdowns at home before finally finishing at 8 pm - way past his bedtime.

Friday- good day -

We both came home from work and school and fell asleep- he actually woke up to go to the bathroom and went right back to bed- He needs rest- he goes and goes and goes then out of energy

I sent in his paperwork to begin his evaluations- so we shall see where we go- I do not want his academics affected by this- I informed of that- gave them information to contact his pyschologist and psychiatrist. Hopefully this will be resolved sooner then later.

Well - I have been studying for SS - it should be good- I have a few object things to do- and a CD to give away.

Here is a picture of my tree- it has purple bows, ornaments, white snowflakes, ice thingys. with purple and white lights

The 5 love languages of Children part 1

This is a book written by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell-

I am not much of a reader but this past week or so I have been reading 2 different books to change my life for the better- to get a better understanding of things.

Here is some information - that has helped me so much- better understand why Marcus is Marcus-

The emotional foundation of life is laid in the first 18 months of life- particularly the mother - child relationship. The food for future emotional health is physical touch- kind words- and tender care. hmmmmmmm- why does Marcus love hugs so much and to be near me so- he was lacking it-

The foundation of love laid in the early years affects a child's ability to learn and largely determine when they are able to grasp new information. Many children go to school ill prepared because they have not reached the emotional levels of maturity- hmmmmmm again.

Marcus missed out on alot - and it is taking time-Marcus from what I gather from the book and the answers he gave- and also stepping back and really assessing- is a child that loves the physical touch- I know you all say duh-hugs, kisses, high fives, taps on the head, back rubs, head massages all of which express love to children. He also is a child that exhibits acts of service - this means he likes when others do nice things for him such as helping with chores, helping with school projects, or driving them places-We teach them how to serve themselves. and myself and those around us can be role models as how to serve others.

Good book- still reading still learning-

PD and Melissa- the day

Both of these wonderful people are pastors- PD your blog was amazing today-last night
Melissa your email was very helpful-

My day today is not really planned out- I have cleaning to do and some shopping - Marcus is still asleep - for a change on a Saturday-maybe I will do my running around mid morning- not sure I will get back to you- WE have one more Christmas gift to get - for pa paw then we are done yeah!!! I need to finish the cards- Marcus chose them and he signed his name in all of them and picked who would get them - I added a few in there-

I will write more later on somethings that I have been thinking about -and reading about
Have a good one

Emotional - Stressful

Not sure why this is stressing me- I believe it will be a good thing- it is what he needs-
I am babbling- the behavior specialist from school I spoke with- Marcus needs additional help- he is having outbursts and having trouble with authority. Not doing what he is asked to do. Then kicking things and running away (ran from the teacher at recess today)

I know this will be good for him- he will be evaluated and the necessary procedures will occur- he will get an IEP. I have already put in motion the psychologist and psychiatrist to contact the school and speak with them.

So I have a meeting at the school on Thursday at 3 - pray for us - me - Marcus will be fine and I will be too- not sure what I am feeling- just here we go again I guess- oh no change in school thank goodness- probably a change partially with the teacher-

I broke down in tears on the way to pick himup from Kids r Kids - just a way of getting rid of stress I guess

One day at a time

We have been doing devotions together every night this week and more quality time in the evenings -praying more for him - I have been reading a book- and trying things - so we shall see how it goes- Tonight we did a devotion on frustrations and how to deal with them- how we deal with them-
He says he yells and crys and hits things. but he says the best way is to let the Lord help you- we read several scripture verses on how to deal with things-

Okay going to go read my Sunday school book --thanks Brenda for yours- mine for those that know about them - was eaten by my dog yesterday while I was at work- I was almost done with it-
Have a good evening

Today...

was a great day for Marcus- work for me was good- busy surgery day
then I get back to my office at 2:45 ( I leave at 3) and there are 2 messages from Adam on my work phone - a text message on my cell phone and a voice message with his cell number as the return number- of course this sent me into oh no what has happened - I was calm
Called him- whatever you need me to do. Sarah was at the emergency room since this morning- can you help and go get Brenda- whatever you need I said.
So I ran and got Brenda ran and got Marcus went and let my dog out and started for St Joesphs Hospital- it sounded like appendicitis- You see Adam was there since early this morning-
but everything came back normal - we were half way there and he said go to the house they are discharging her- okay-
then we were almost at the house and he called- he said hang there for a little while she just vomited again-
okay so all is well for now- she was discharged with some nausea meds and needs to follow up with her Dr tomorrow- maybe viral-
So we were a little out of schedule but Marcus did so well- I told him what was going on and he said can I pray for Sarah- absoultely - He loves Sarah. Shoot he loves the whole Tobias Family- He asked about Chris tonight.
So the Tobias's are all home- we are home- Marcus is out very quickly--
I am getting ready to go read- I am not much of a reader but I am hooked on this book that Bernie and Lisa gave at the CE dinner and I am hooked on the 5 laguages of love for children- very good very insightful-I started it last night and I see Marcus in a few of the scenarios the book talks about-
So have a good evening keep Sarah in your prayers-

Peace Peace Wonderful Peace Coming Down from the Father Above

Oh what a wonderful time I had at our CE dinner- so peaceful - so rejuvenating- so thought provoking-so peaceful- did I say that-
I stayed fairly late-and just sat on the porch talking with a few others that stayed- it is so quiet on Bernie and Lisa's porch-
As I was driving home I had a smile on my face and felt so peaceful inside- that has been missing for a while.
I got home and was reading my lesson for Sunday School and then pulled out my new lessons- well I did the new lesson today- On leadership- oh my I have work to do- Oh I know I have been in leadership but wow - I need to increase it- I apologized to the youth in Sunday School for not being a better leader and I was going to work on it.
I was up til 2 this am just conversing with God- It was truly amazing- I woke up at 5 and continued the conversation - went back to sleep and up at 7. I went into Sunday School about 8:30 to review the new lesson I was doing- I was driving in and was very peaceful having a conversation with God - started to cry-not really sure why but did.
Spoke with Bernie and told what an impact last night was on my life-right now and started to cry-
Sunday School was pretty good- I got asked with some challenging questions which I posed to the wiser ones-
Went and picked Marcus up -had a good day up until it was time to go get a shower- I do not want one he said- well 20 minutes later we were having a discussion and he went up and got a shower-
Afterwards we did a devotion and then prayed together for about 15-20 minutes - it was only going to be a few minutes but it was longer then I anticipated- it was very calming and very peaceful- I sensed God working on Marcus and I as I prayed for him- I always pray with my hands on him and it was just very peaceful -
Now I am going to do my study- will talk about that in a couple a weeks- pray about it though-

Do you hear it? no

It is called silence- it has been about 6 hours since we met up with my sister- I was able to do shopping - Santa shopping- and clean the car out and take a nap- ahhh a nap it was lovely- sat and watched a movie about a dog- and now getting ready for our CE dinner- with only adults - I am not sure I will know how to behave although the adults can get more rambunctious then the kids at times. It is a fun time

The best news of the day is Marcus has not been in trouble- yeah!!!!!! We had a wonderful morning of chores -it is our Saturday thing to do- he did what he was asked to do with out talking back- I got my haircut while he read his clubhouse Jr magazine ( good magazine for kids his age) it is from Focus on the Family. We were in and out-

You know with the week we had - I just want to say- he is an amazing child- really and truly- we were at Target and he was reading all the signs he could possibly read- he loves to read- I love that-

Ainsley got her hair cut today for locks of love- here is her before and after pictures- she is so cute with the new cute