Saturday, December 29, 2007

Update and Renovate

Starting today- I will be helping the Tobias' and they will be helping me-
Marcus' room and bathroom is getting a minimakeover- sports for his room- surfboards for his bathroom.



Adam and Chris are coming over to fix a few minor things and helping me paint the bathroom- tall ceilings - too high for me- yes I have a slight fear of heights- I will go up on things but not if I do not have too- and get this I love to fly - go figure.
Then after we tackle a few things here we go to the Tobias house- where Chris and Sarah's room are getting totally redone- I mean totally- in the mix I am meeting myparents to pick up Marcus today- he behaved very well and on the phone last night he told me he was goin gto listen until he got to high school- I am hopeful :)
I will include pictures of the makeover from both houses - We hope to be done by Tuesday and then just chill out the remainder of the week we shall see- We have a lot of paint to cover at the Tobias household.

Turning Chris' room into Sarah's room and turning Sarah's room into a home office/guest room
I will keep you posted on the progress.
You see these type of projects are how I relax of love home improvement-






Wednesday, December 26, 2007

It's the Most Wonderful Day of the Year

Okay it is the most wonderful day of the year- Christmas is over- okay do not go there my friends - I love the season and I love to celebrate Christmas and Christ's birth- but in all honesty I want my son back to normal or as normal as he gets- and guess what my mom said he is having a wonderful day- he is doing nothing at their house but watching TV and chillin- it is the most wonderful day of theyear-


I have to work thes 3 days but will be picking him up on Saturday.


I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas day- we did - Marcus had a few bumpy moments but it was all good.


Run down of my highlights:


1. Watching a video @ 7 in the morning about behaving with Marcus- it was good - it is by Max Lucado and it was the one he wanted- really it was.

2. Marcus taking a nap from 9;30-11:30

3. Opening Santa gifts and his favorite was a slinky that was in his stocking- for the portable CD player. He also like the remote jeep grannie and papaw got him- Clarence the cat liked it to.



4. Seeing the Tobias'-

5. Watching the eyes of the kids when it was something they really liked- Marcus and his scooby doo underwear-





6. Being crowded in my living room ( I live in a townhouse) with 5 adults- 3 children - 2 dogs over 80 lbs and 3 cats (1 upstairs)

7. Hanging outside with the family

8. Marcus reading the story of the birth of Jesus before dinner- He did an Awesome job I was very proud.

9. Everyone leaving and going to bed for some sleep- hey 4 hours of sleep I was tired.

My favorite gifts (not in any particular order)




1. my dining room table


2. ice cream sundae stuff

3. my black frames- I am redoing my frames

4. My homemade ornament and candle holder


(today is the most wonderful day)

Tuesday, December 25, 2007

Merry Christmas


Merry Christmas!

Yes I have been up since 4 am not by my choosing and not because my son thought he would run downstairs- no he once again was singing to Jesus in bed- I love the fact he wants to sing to Jesus - however at 4 am - it is very tiring since he does wake me up-


Anyway- let us not focus on the bad choices - today is Christmas-

Help us all to remember the reason why we celebrate this day


Jesus came down to earth as a babe - born in a manger. Have you thought about that? Have you ever seen an animal food trough? They are dirty- filthy- no sterility at all-trust me I have been around enough animals to know no matter how much you clean their food bowls they are never clean enough- Anyway- he sacrificed himself to come as a baby- he humbled himself to come to us as a baby-

How much more do we need to ask for- He was born in a manger- a food trough- a barn-

Would you want your child to be born in a barn? No we (me no I went to a courthouse) go to the hospital where it is all clean and tidy- someone comes in- cleans up the mess and wraps the baby up all tidy.


This year I keep being brought back to the barn- the food trough-the filthy conditions of a barn. He humbled Himself that much for me- He truly is a Loving, Gracious and Caring God. Help me to always remember how much You Love Us.


Merry Christmas Everyone- Take time for Jesus today- Happy Birthday Jesus

Monday, December 24, 2007

Christmas Communion Service

Well today was not too bad up until about 700 tonight-then it got ugly- we will NOT focus on that though


Tonight was communion service at our church - I had never been and decided we would go-
I am glad we did- I was not sure if Marcus knew what the bread and wine (juice ) represented but we talked about it and he did. He amazes me sometimes-

Marcus turned into this shy person- it was a little different then he was used to. It was his first communion ever- he was so cute. Pastor Larry ( PDs dad) and Pastor Deanna gave us communion and then prayed for us- when they were done praying Marcus was crying - took me a few minutes to understand what he was saying - he said Jesus died- I said yes he did but He is a live he rose from the dead - tomorrow we celebrate his birth-PD spoke with him too.

Not sure lately he is very sensitive about Jesus- God must be getting ready for something-
We left and turned up the Gaither Christmas in South Africa on the way home a looked at lights - he was amazed - He said mommy I have a question- okay what is it- How do they get those lights on the house -A ladder probably- oh yes a ladder he says-




So cute- so innocent at times-
I did get the table done so there will be pictures later this week-
Merry Christmas everyone- You are loved

Silence in the house

Ahh it is quiet- just the sound of me typin gof my keys Marcus is still asleep- thank you Jesus- just so equiet before the day begins-


last minute stuff to do- I want to go to the store first thing and get a few things- I want to set my table all pretty- have not had that opportunity before- PD thanks for the inspiration- you have an influence on me more then you know.

Anyway- run to a few stores- then home- Tobias' may be out today not sure though-for our Christmas together- this year has seem a little chaotic but okay- Brenda got deathly ill - really I am serious- Saturday AM got a phone from Adam - guess where we are- I said the hospital ( they have been there a few time this year so I was not surprise) of course I was surprised when he said it was Brenda- anyway she was very sick through the night- Severly dehydrated-Her K+ level had bottomed out and they had to give her more- I will not go into what could happen if your K+ drops too low let us just say by the grace of God nothing major happened.


So she is Fine Now- they were going to come over last evening but went to Adam's sisters instead cause they were going to go Saturday but that went out the window- Then they were coming here Sunday Night and they were not back til I am sure after 9 ish. Tonight they go to Adam's brothers and then tomorrow my family comes to my house. We will get together- I just hope before Wednesday cause Marcus is goin to grannie and papaws for a few days and then Chris and Sarah are going to Gainesville- Chris to go to school Sarah to go to Grandmas

So what are my plans-


clean the litter boxes - tidy up the house - finish the last bit of laundry - Vaccuum Marcus's room- set the table- finish wrapping presents- go to the store-


Thank goodness I do not have to cook- I need to learn though- oh I do okay


Like the other night- I was proud of myself- I made liver and onions, green beans and mashed potatoes- yes Marcus likes liver and I have liked it since I was his age- it use to baffle the meat people when I would ask for it.

Chow for now - I will let you know how the day goes and post somepictures of the table



Sunday, December 23, 2007

Please take the sharp object from my right temple

That is how I felt since 5:30 this morning until about 1:30 this afternoon. Marcus woke up at 5:30 and was in one of those moods of not listening- wore me out before service- So I went to Sunday School with a migraine- I was prepared to teach and taught I did although I know it was not my best effort- I let the kids know before I started I had a migraine-they pushed my buttons a little to much today-

Okay I am going to vent here -prepare yourself- You go to Sunday School you would think you would take your Bible with you right- yes you would - because after Sunday school is church service where believe it or not we read from the bible. For those of you who attend my church please talk with your high schoolers and junior highers about bringing their bibles- oh they tried to blame parents and they tried to say they got up early but they need to take responsibility for themselves to bring their Bibles!


So got into service and really I was not feeling great - sorry Pastor Larry my focus was not on your message but the sharp object in my right temple- It got so bad I thought I was going to okay throw up. but I usually don't - I got out to the car and Adam and the kids were talking and it hurt so bad I was crying- but I had to be somewhere my nieces bday party (got some meds and drove to Clearwater)- she gets left out cause it is so close to Christmas and she was so excited to see me when I got there.


We got home about 5 and now it is just a dull ache- so I am feeling much better- Tobias' were suppose to come over but not sure if they are cause it is 6:25 now. Marcus got a lot better as the day progressed

It will be just him and I tomorrow ( we will be making cookies for Santa - I think white frosted are his favorite ) and the night so I plan on going out to dinner and then going to church for prayer and communion- I have not taught him about communion yet cause he still is getting the concept of baby Jesus. Then it will be him and I Christmas morning- I was hoping to have my parents be there for Santa but they will arrive a little later in the morning and then the Cole's will be here.











Friday, December 21, 2007

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh- it is Friday Night

Good evening my friends- well you never know what the week will hold with a child who has ADHD and PTSD- we went from wild man on Monday to him making a lovely ornament and candle holder to a semi wild man early Friday morning.



I know this week was related to the last week before vacation for a couple of weeks.

Well I increased his medication and he seems more focused- less agigtated but it has only been 2 days. He had a fun time in school yesterday - they made gingerbread houses - parents were asked to come in and help their child but I could not - we had surgeries from 7:30 until 2 ish and I neede to help cause there were 4 big animals all over 100lbs. One bit my foot all in love - he was not mean or anything just wanted to see how I tasted - he was using my foot as a pacifier. Of course now I have a nice bruise on it- Got love those critters.



I asked Marcus how things went and if other parents were not there- he said they were all there - oh I felt very small then 5 minutes later he said no there were several parents not there. still the life of a single mom can not be in 2 places at one time- if a little more notice would have been given that would have been great - then I could have adjusted my schedule oh well it is done and over.

This morning he was a pistol- we had to call papaw (thanks Papaw) and he got him under control as we were driing to Kids r Kids-- he apologized and said he would be better - He has a few consequences which he is not happy about but hey I made him choose his consequences and I tell him that.

So all the not so good stuff here is what the good stuff is.

I was so exicted to open my first homemade ornament from him and candle holder- This is the first year he has done something like this. It made me smile from ear to ear - you know your a mom when you get one of these- okay I am sure there are other ways to know your a mom but this is my moment.


This is our 3rd Christmas together- the first 2 he had no clue- this year he has a clue- the true meaning and the Santa- yes I do Santa- it is part of growing up - as long as you have the true meaning - We still do Santa with my parents he still signs the package cards - although sometime Santa forgets and then it is a guessing game of what and who it is for. we laugh about it. We watched a couple fo fun movies this season and last week we watched the Nativity- I am not sure if any of you have seen it-for me it was very good and Marcus (even though it might have been too much) he saw it was about baby Jesus.

I will get my gift from Santa tomorrow a new dining room table can not wait- it is counter height and will be able to sit 6 (has a leaf to open)- I have a small table now works great but I fell in love with this -you never know who I might invite over for dinner- hey though feel free to come who ever wants to- but realize I am not a cook so bring something

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Monday, December 17, 2007

This was my day

Marcus go to your room- Marcus face the wall- Marcus stop yelling at mean- Marcus you are making bad choices- Marcus quit grunting yes grunting-
The Dr called he was not in the office and he said to call first thing in the morning - I said I will do that-
I noticed today well actually the last several days we have had trouble- he points to his head and sends ugh like he is unable to focus again- so this for me will indicate he needs a little more meds on board.

okay I am tired - emotionally exhausted- this too shall pass- this too shall pass- this too shall pass-

Hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

I will be fine- God will help me Thank you Jesus for helping me I need thee oh I need thee

High Anxiety >>>>

This is how my Monday started-


It is really not how I wanted to do the morning- in fact I am at home- Marcus was out of control- I am exhausted- emotionally and physically- he wears me out- I need to start working out again-

So I am home today with my defiant- hurtful young man- he hit me today which is unusual- he did not want to do what was asked of him and I could not allow him to stay at Kids r Kids and not be safe- or go to school and not be safe- I have a phone call in to the Dr- he has been like this for 3 days not all day but more and more- maybe need to increase his meds again-

I will blog later

Friday, December 14, 2007

Summary of the week

It seemed this week went on forever- here is the run down of what it has been like

Monday- Marcus had a school performance -he did very well- I would like to place pictures in here but none turned out- I will be getting the DVD though. His teacher said he was the only one to know all the words and actions to the songs of all the classes. Hmmmmmm - entertainer or better yet praise and worship leader-


Tuesday-We stayed at home and watched a Christmas movie

Wednesday was an odd day- I was set to go to JBQ practice but Marucs fell asleep early- Monday night caught up with him I guess. We had to pick up gifts from a coworker for the foster kids- work gave gifts to some teens through the organization Marcus was adopted from.


Then Thursday was the day he had a rough one from start to finish- From the time he woke up til the time he went to bed. At home he wanted no business listening- I thought he got it together before I left him at Kids r Kids .Kids R Kids- he ran through the facility - I had to be called- someone made fun of him what I understand- that is what kicked of that. Then at school he had a few problems one of which he had to be removed from the classroom - he was kicking chairs over. He screamed in the car- I had to restarin him to get him in the car- because he ran from me and hid in the gym at kid r kids- he wanted to play longer - we had to go deliver the gifts this day. So grannie, Uncle Adam , and Aunt Lori all got phone calls because I was not getting through to him of course no one was around- so I began to pray - and turn on praise and worship after a few minutes he was quiet- I was mean and not nice and all the other fun things kids say to you. The day progressed with him not listening about his HW and throwing several meltdowns at home before finally finishing at 8 pm - way past his bedtime.


Friday- good day -

We both came home from work and school and fell asleep- he actually woke up to go to the bathroom and went right back to bed- He needs rest- he goes and goes and goes then out of energy


I sent in his paperwork to begin his evaluations- so we shall see where we go- I do not want his academics affected by this- I informed of that- gave them information to contact his pyschologist and psychiatrist. Hopefully this will be resolved sooner then later.


Well - I have been studying for SS - it should be good- I have a few object things to do- and a CD to give away.

Here is a picture of my tree- it has purple bows, ornaments, white snowflakes, ice thingys. with purple and white lights

Saturday, December 8, 2007

The 5 love languages of Children part 1


This is a book written by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell-
I am not much of a reader but this past week or so I have been reading 2 different books to change my life for the better- to get a better understanding of things.
Here is some information - that has helped me so much- better understand why Marcus is Marcus-
The emotional foundation of life is laid in the first 18 months of life- particularly the mother - child relationship. The food for future emotional health is physical touch- kind words- and tender care. hmmmmmmm- why does Marcus love hugs so much and to be near me so- he was lacking it-
The foundation of love laid in the early years affects a child's ability to learn and largely determine when they are able to grasp new information. Many children go to school ill prepared because they have not reached the emotional levels of maturity- hmmmmmm again.
Marcus missed out on alot - and it is taking time-Marcus from what I gather from the book and the answers he gave- and also stepping back and really assessing- is a child that loves the physical touch- I know you all say duh-hugs, kisses, high fives, taps on the head, back rubs, head massages all of which express love to children. He also is a child that exhibits acts of service - this means he likes when others do nice things for him such as helping with chores, helping with school projects, or driving them places-We teach them how to serve themselves. and myself and those around us can be role models as how to serve others.



Good book- still reading still learning-



PD and Melissa- the day

Both of these wonderful people are pastors- PD your blog was amazing today-last night
Melissa your email was very helpful-

My day today is not really planned out- I have cleaning to do and some shopping - Marcus is still asleep - for a change on a Saturday-maybe I will do my running around mid morning- not sure I will get back to you- WE have one more Christmas gift to get - for pa paw then we are done yeah!!! I need to finish the cards- Marcus chose them and he signed his name in all of them and picked who would get them - I added a few in there-

I will write more later on somethings that I have been thinking about -and reading about
Have a good one

Friday, December 7, 2007

Emotional - Stressful

Not sure why this is stressing me- I believe it will be a good thing- it is what he needs-
I am babbling- the behavior specialist from school I spoke with- Marcus needs additional help- he is having outbursts and having trouble with authority. Not doing what he is asked to do. Then kicking things and running away (ran from the teacher at recess today)

I know this will be good for him- he will be evaluated and the necessary procedures will occur- he will get an IEP. I have already put in motion the psychologist and psychiatrist to contact the school and speak with them.

So I have a meeting at the school on Thursday at 3 - pray for us - me - Marcus will be fine and I will be too- not sure what I am feeling- just here we go again I guess- oh no change in school thank goodness- probably a change partially with the teacher-

I broke down in tears on the way to pick himup from Kids r Kids - just a way of getting rid of stress I guess

One day at a time

We have been doing devotions together every night this week and more quality time in the evenings -praying more for him - I have been reading a book- and trying things - so we shall see how it goes- Tonight we did a devotion on frustrations and how to deal with them- how we deal with them-
He says he yells and crys and hits things. but he says the best way is to let the Lord help you- we read several scripture verses on how to deal with things-

Okay going to go read my Sunday school book --thanks Brenda for yours- mine for those that know about them - was eaten by my dog yesterday while I was at work- I was almost done with it-
Have a good evening

Monday, December 3, 2007

Today...

was a great day for Marcus- work for me was good- busy surgery day
then I get back to my office at 2:45 ( I leave at 3) and there are 2 messages from Adam on my work phone - a text message on my cell phone and a voice message with his cell number as the return number- of course this sent me into oh no what has happened - I was calm
Called him- whatever you need me to do. Sarah was at the emergency room since this morning- can you help and go get Brenda- whatever you need I said.
So I ran and got Brenda ran and got Marcus went and let my dog out and started for St Joesphs Hospital- it sounded like appendicitis- You see Adam was there since early this morning-
but everything came back normal - we were half way there and he said go to the house they are discharging her- okay-
then we were almost at the house and he called- he said hang there for a little while she just vomited again-
okay so all is well for now- she was discharged with some nausea meds and needs to follow up with her Dr tomorrow- maybe viral-
So we were a little out of schedule but Marcus did so well- I told him what was going on and he said can I pray for Sarah- absoultely - He loves Sarah. Shoot he loves the whole Tobias Family- He asked about Chris tonight.
So the Tobias's are all home- we are home- Marcus is out very quickly--
I am getting ready to go read- I am not much of a reader but I am hooked on this book that Bernie and Lisa gave at the CE dinner and I am hooked on the 5 laguages of love for children- very good very insightful-I started it last night and I see Marcus in a few of the scenarios the book talks about-
So have a good evening keep Sarah in your prayers-

Sunday, December 2, 2007

Peace Peace Wonderful Peace Coming Down from the Father Above

Oh what a wonderful time I had at our CE dinner- so peaceful - so rejuvenating- so thought provoking-so peaceful- did I say that-
I stayed fairly late-and just sat on the porch talking with a few others that stayed- it is so quiet on Bernie and Lisa's porch-
As I was driving home I had a smile on my face and felt so peaceful inside- that has been missing for a while.
I got home and was reading my lesson for Sunday School and then pulled out my new lessons- well I did the new lesson today- On leadership- oh my I have work to do- Oh I know I have been in leadership but wow - I need to increase it- I apologized to the youth in Sunday School for not being a better leader and I was going to work on it.
I was up til 2 this am just conversing with God- It was truly amazing- I woke up at 5 and continued the conversation - went back to sleep and up at 7. I went into Sunday School about 8:30 to review the new lesson I was doing- I was driving in and was very peaceful having a conversation with God - started to cry-not really sure why but did.
Spoke with Bernie and told what an impact last night was on my life-right now and started to cry-
Sunday School was pretty good- I got asked with some challenging questions which I posed to the wiser ones-
Went and picked Marcus up -had a good day up until it was time to go get a shower- I do not want one he said- well 20 minutes later we were having a discussion and he went up and got a shower-
Afterwards we did a devotion and then prayed together for about 15-20 minutes - it was only going to be a few minutes but it was longer then I anticipated- it was very calming and very peaceful- I sensed God working on Marcus and I as I prayed for him- I always pray with my hands on him and it was just very peaceful -
Now I am going to do my study- will talk about that in a couple a weeks- pray about it though-

Saturday, December 1, 2007

Do you hear it? no

It is called silence- it has been about 6 hours since we met up with my sister- I was able to do shopping - Santa shopping- and clean the car out and take a nap- ahhh a nap it was lovely- sat and watched a movie about a dog- and now getting ready for our CE dinner- with only adults - I am not sure I will know how to behave although the adults can get more rambunctious then the kids at times. It is a fun time
The best news of the day is Marcus has not been in trouble- yeah!!!!!! We had a wonderful morning of chores -it is our Saturday thing to do- he did what he was asked to do with out talking back- I got my haircut while he read his clubhouse Jr magazine ( good magazine for kids his age) it is from Focus on the Family. We were in and out-
You know with the week we had - I just want to say- he is an amazing child- really and truly- we were at Target and he was reading all the signs he could possibly read- he loves to read- I love that-
Ainsley got her hair cut today for locks of love- here is her before and after pictures- she is so cute with the new cute